A survey done with more than 7,000 mothers from the U.S. showed that most of them rated their stress as 8.5 out of 10. A study also showed that almost 50 percent of mothers experienced a lot of stress, not because of their children, but because of their spouses.
Why is this so? Continue reading the article to learn more…
Wives: More Stressed by their Husbands than Children?
The findings of the study showed that most of the mother participants became irritated and stress when they lacked the needed time to do all of the planned tasks for the day. What’s more, 75 percent of the participants said that they were doing most of the household and parenting duties in the family. And, 1 in every 5 mothers pointed out that a significant daily stressor is their partner.
The University of Padova point out that these levels of stress have a major role in marriages later on in life, especially on the overall health and longevity of partners. What they concluded during a study was that the health of the husband tends to worsen after his wife passes away.
On the other hand, after losing their husbands, women experienced improvement in the overall health and better coping with depression and stress. Though the researchers did not found the contributing factors to this discovery; they believe that this has to do with the fact that men tend to rely more on their female partners, which is not necessarily the case with women.
Why Are Husbands Stressing Out their Partners?
Even though mothers expect from their male partners to receive the needed support from their partners when it comes to family care,including doctor appointments, homework duties, play dates, etc. they do not necessarily get it.
Moreover, in a lot of families in which both partners have full-time jobs, it is common occurrence that the women are left with most of the chores and responsibilities of the household. As a result, they have less time for themselves and are more prone to stress and irritability.
How to Create a Better & Healthier Bond with Your Partner
Here are a couple of tips that can help you strengthen the relationship with your husband/wife:
- Split duties on both sides to avoid burning out and excessive stress
- By splitting duties, you will also get more things done in a shorter period of time
- Use a shared calendar to be accountable and organised
- Nurture the relationship with your partner because remember, you are not just parents,you are individuals and partners. Make sure you have a weekly time for the two of you- without the kids, the work, and without any distractions
- A strong bond between partners can help easily face challenging days
- It is not just the two of you who will benefit from a strong connection, but the whole family too
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